We Still Eat - 4.25.26

4.25.26 — We Still Eat

Did you know that people with eating disorders still eat?

Shocker, I know.

You might have a friend you’re worried about. But you’ve seen her eat, maybe even grab pizza or sweets with you. So she must be fine… right?

I wish it worked like that.

When I was at my lowest, mentally and physically, I still ate. I had sweets. I got takeout. And I still had an eating disorder. And I still could have died.

The truth is, if someone with anorexia didn’t eat at all, they wouldn’t survive. Eating disorders are not defined by whether someone eats, they’re about behaviors, thoughts, and patterns.

This is where a lot of misconceptions come in. People tend to picture eating disorders in very extreme, visible ways. Someone who never eats, or someone who looks a certain way. But in reality, eating disorders are often much more hidden. Someone might eat in front of others but restrict heavily when they’re alone. They might compensate in other ways, over-exercising, purging, or mentally spiraling over what they’ve eaten. What you see on the outside is not always what's going on on the inside.

Another important thing to understand is that eating disorders are mental illnesses, not just physical ones. Two people can eat the exact same meal, but have completely different relationships with food. One might eat freely, while the other is battling guilt, anxiety, and obsessive thoughts the entire time. That internal struggle is what defines the disorder, not just the food itself.

So don’t let someone’s food choices or body size convince you that everything is okay. Eating disorders can exist in many forms, across all body types, and at any weight. Seeing someone eat does not mean they are healthy.

If anything, this is a reminder to look deeper. Pay attention to patterns, behaviors, and emotional changes. And if you’re someone who is struggling, know that your experience is valid, even if it doesn’t “look” like what people expect. You deserve support, understanding, and help.